True love is not always possible. Sometimes we just get comfortable with one another and plough on through the years thinking it’s better than being alone. But it’s not. It’s so much better to be alone than being with someone you don’t love wholeheartedly. However, there are many of us in relationships which we are 100% content in. And content in a good way. Not just bored and in a routine.
I personally feel I have a relationship built on true love. But what is true love?
IT MUST BE TRUE LOVE
The reality of many true love relationships is that we don’t always feel the need to hold hands, kiss and hug in public or be glued at the hip. More often than not, we are sat in our own world, we act like friends more than lovers.
A healthy relationship is based on a mutual understanding of one another. Being able to hang out, debate and discuss and sing like a drunk in a karaoke bar whilst making a cup of tea before binge watching box sets.
The love that exists has no price and no worth. It’s not the bank balance, the house size or the quality of the flowers (if any). Gifts aren’t required in this relationship. It’s about putting a smile on the other’s face, it’s about the warmth of the hug, the spark of the kiss and the feeling of utter completeness.
COME WHAT MAY
Neither party expects anything. We know when to give the other space, to let them have their ‘me’ time and when they need us, we are there for them. We pick each other up when we are down.
True love is never being bored of one another. When things get a little repetitive, we are able to talk about it openly and without worry. The thoughts are always taken on board and new ways to deal with issues or break out of a routine are put into practice to make it work.
We are the ones who can conquer any battle that comes our way. Freedom to explore hobbies or ideas is always encouraged. We always compromise so no one loses out or feels as though nothing is given back.
There is no paying each other back. We share, we give and we thank for what we are given.
True love is unconditional.
TRUE LOVE WITHOUT BEING LOVERS
You can have an utter unconditional love for someone who you aren’t in a relationship with. Sex doesn’t have to exist between you. You don’t have to find them attractive or be in love with them. True love can exist simply between friends or family. Just being able to accept someone for who they are and being comfortable with them. You can not talk to them for months but you are always there for them. That’s the real definition.
What is true love to you?