You’re going on a date and you’re not sure what to do with yourself. There’s a day in your diary circled to meet up with the lad or lady you’ve liked for a while and you’re nervous as hell about seeing them for what is more than a social and friendly gathering. Valentine’s Day is coming up and you need to get this out of the way otherwise, you’d be single for it. Here are a few tips!
Think about the location of where you’re going to spend this date. It’s got to be somewhere where you can talk, so no cinema (wait until the second or third date for that one). Here are a couple of great date ideas:
- Go bowling – Fun, casual and competitive
- Have a casual lunch or dinner – Nothing too fancy or expensive. And offer to pay!
- Visit a Theme Park – Excitement, giggles and plenty of opportunity to chat.
- Go to London for the day – Walk around, talk, grab some food and explore the free things the city has to offer
- Go bike riding – Active and it gets you outdoors
DRESS FOR THE OCCASION
The key is to not over do it. Be yourself and dress for what activity you’re taking part in:
- Skinny jeans, a cute top and pumps show you’ve made an effort but aren’t trying to hard.
- Don’t go OTT on the makeup, perfume or hair products.
- Bring spare trainers and perhaps spare clothes in case you end up doing something outdoorsy.
WHEN YOU GET THERE
Do’s and Don’ts :
- Don’t drink you may say or do something embarrassing
- Do smile and laugh a lot but don’t fake it.
- Don’t talk about your ex or bring up their ex.
- Do flirt but not too much.
- Don’t sleep together, wait it out. You don’t want to look desperate.
- Do offer to pay the bill.
- Do eat food that won’t make a mess (but eat as you normally would).
- Do ask about them.
- Don’t just talk about yourself.
- Do hug and kiss goodbye, but no tongues.
AFTER THE DATE
So you’ve kissed, you’ve gone home. What to do now…
- Don’t text them straight away, wait until the next day (not first thing) and thank them for a lovely time and that’s you’re looking forward to doing it again soon.
- Wait for a reply.
- Don’t keep texting.
- No social media-ing about your date.
- Have a few chats via text, phone or whatever before you arrange another date.
- When planning your next date, do something that will show allow more room for conversations, like a picnic.
- Bring a gift on the second date, something that will show that you paid attention to your date’s interests!
I hope your first date goes well but, if the date turns out to be a disaster, it’s not the end of the world. Remember, there’s plenty more fish.