When shopping for a bra you have to take two things into consideration: Comfort and Support. If it lacks either don’t buy it.
For a very long time, I let my nerves get the better of me and refused to be fitted professionally. So, for a very long time I’d been wearing C and D cups interchangeably when I was an E. Who knows what strap thingy size I was wearing! All I knew was that my bras hurt. The underwire would dig into my armpit and I literally couldn’t run without struggle. Even breathing was a challenge.
The point I’m making here is that bras are clothes just like any other, but they are also very different. They are a tool of mobility when you have sizeable breasts and they even stop backache. If you have the wrong size bra for too long it can cause your breasts to misshapen, harm your posture and give back and neck injuries.
So, here are some rules I try following when doing… bra stuff (and you should too):
The underwire must fit against your chest…
…no overlapping the breasts. That little pyramid where the wires ‘meet’ should rest flat on the skin between them. If they don’t the bra doesn’t fit.
If your underwire pops out of its seam…
…throw it away immediately. It will cut into you and make you look like a crazy lady if you’re fiddling with it all the time. But definitely do not put it in the washing machine because it might come out, ruin the clothes in there with it and even slip into the machine itself. Who knows how much that will cost!
Every breast has a perfect cup shape.
Try out lots, like balconette, full, minimising etc. This will help you learn what makes you feel more comfortable. I know personally that if you get the wrong shape you’ll feel self-conscious.
What I mean is, bras are expensive at the best of times but buying them from a cheap shop will have horrible consequences. You’ll have to buy them weekly and no one has time or money for that. Go into your favourite bra shop (best when there’s a sale on) and buy three really nice bras. Stock up on cheap if you want, but at least you’ll have three go-to bras that won’t break immediately. If you buy three good ones, they’ll pay for themselves in the long run.
Every bra shop has a different sizing and calibre of craftsmanship (yep, using fancy words). So find the shop that best suits you and trust it. I recently read an article when investigating for my own bra shopping, that those big bra stores with the beautiful models are BAD at sizing breasts. Even their models are ill-fitted. Personal experience has told me similarly. So investigate first hand. Get fitted well before going somewhere like that and then fit yourself with the pointers you’d been given before.
Don’t be afraid of your size!
I know I can only speak for the larger breasted ladies, but it’s kind of the same for the smaller ones, yes? Well, I was advised to go to a big lady bra shop to find bras because they’d have a larger selection (pun intended). I was nervous at first, unwilling to openly admit I needed to go to the fringes of society for my bras. But I did anyway and found a huge selection of modern bras that were wonderful and fitted me perfectly. There were bras of all styles and even a sale on!
So with this knowledge in hand, go into the world and live comfortably. You don’t need to wrap your breasts in an iron maiden or straight-jacket to look good. In fact, you shouldn’t. Be proud and confident in your body. The only person who matters is you, after all.
Who taught you how to wear bras and did you learn any pearls of wisdom that you want to teach us?