Ever look at someone and immediately get a bad feeling from them? That’s probably because they are giving off some negative signals purely with body language alone. The worst part is that they most likely have no clue they are doing it (yep, me too). When it comes to social and work situations, body language is incredibly important to give a good impression.
What is classed as negative body language?
I’ve been digging around the internet, as well as making my own personal observations and noticed how negative body language can affect a conversation. It can put people off talking to you or even approaching you with any certainty. A few of these negative vibes include:
- Crossed arms (creating a barrier)
- Rolling eyes
- Inspecting yourself (e.g. nails, clothes etc.)
- Shaking head (even when saying something positive)
- Stroking your chin whilst talking to someone (seems as if you’re judging)
- Checking the time
- Using phone whilst someone is talking (guilty!)
- Looking down
- Hands on the hips (parent stance!)
- Avoiding eye contact
- Rubbing the back of your neck
- Resting your head in your hands
Creating positive body language
Practice makes perfect… Try these out and see the difference in people’s reactions to you:
- Place hands on your lap or comfortably on your side
- Keep eye contact
- Relaxed smile
- Taking notes (important for business meetings, interviews)
- Nod in agreement
- Speaking slowly, calmly but with authority and confidence
It’s hard I know… Try your best to remember this post each time you cross your arms or are feeling stressed. Just know that people can see what you are feeling and body language is the best tool to hide that at the most important of circumstances.