Positive Body Language Tips

Ever look at someone and immediately get a bad feeling from them? That’s probably because they are giving off some negative signals purely with body language alone. The worst part is that they most likely have no clue they are doing it (yep, me too). When it comes to social and work situations, body language is incredibly important to give a good impression.

What is classed as negative body language?

I’ve been digging around the internet, as well as making my own personal observations and noticed how negative body language can affect a conversation. It can put people off talking to you or even approaching you with any certainty. A few of these negative vibes include:

  • Slouching
  • Crossed arms (creating a barrier)
  • Rolling eyes
  • Inspecting yourself (e.g. nails, clothes etc.)
  • Shaking head (even when saying something positive)
  • Yawning
  • Stroking your chin whilst talking to someone (seems as if you’re judging)
  • Checking the time
  • Using phone whilst someone is talking (guilty!)
  • Frowning
  • Looking down
  • Hands on the hips (parent stance!)
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Tapping
  • Rubbing the back of your neck
  • Resting your head in your hands

Creating positive body language

Practice makes perfect… Try these out and see the difference in people’s reactions to you:

  • Place hands on your lap or comfortably on your side
  • Keep eye contact
  • Relaxed smile
  • Taking notes (important for business meetings, interviews)
  • Nod in agreement
  • Speaking slowly, calmly but with authority and confidence

It’s hard I know… Try your best to remember this post each time you cross your arms or are feeling stressed. Just know that people can see what you are feeling and body language is the best tool to hide that at the most important of circumstances.

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  • Reply Cara Owens November 2, 2015 at 2:01 pm

    Great advice! I agree that most people do not realize they are sending out negative signals with their body language. Most of the time people have simply acquired bad habits and do not even think twice about how they might be perceived by others. Being aware of your own body language is very important in both professional and social settings. Just started following your blog and I’m enjoying all of your posts so far!

    • Reply Laura November 2, 2015 at 3:34 pm

      Hi Cara, so glad you are enjoying being part of LFTN 🙂 Thank you for your comment and your support xx

  • Reply Sheree Grace November 3, 2015 at 3:23 am

    Oh my, I do like, all of these. Both the negative and positive language haha. Although the negative language mostly happens when I’m in a social situation and I’m nervous, awkward and shy. I don’t even realise I’m doing half the things until someone comments or asks if I’m okay. But when I’m engaging with someone I’m all about the positive body language. Gosh, how confusing.
    Loved this though, it’s very thought provoking!

    • Reply Laura November 3, 2015 at 10:20 am

      Hi Sheree! Yes it’s so hard to just give off positive signals and I think we are becoming less and less aware of what we are saying with our bodies (myself included!) xx

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