There comes a time in your life when you need to stop worrying about those who haven’t bothered with you. You keep messaging, trying to meet up and trying to have a conversation but it always goes dead. It’s awkward, embarrassing and a big waste of time. You don’t want the friendship that you thought existed to end but alas it seems to be drawing to a close. Here’s what to do if you find yourself in that situation.
GIVE THEM ANOTHER CHANCE
On so many occasions I have attempted conversations that have felt like I was talking to myself or finished in a blunt and closed-ended response but you shouldn’t give up yet. Try to discuss this feeling of being an unwanted friend, never being contacted or spoken to. Attempt another meetup and see what they have to say. If they keep putting you off, they can’t say you didn’t try.
DON’T WORRY ABOUT IT
Some people just aren’t going to be your friends forever. There are some pals that you won’t talk to for months but it doesn’t matter because when you do talk, it’s like nothing changed. Those are what we call true friends.
True friends never stop trying. They tend to just have a busy life and pop in and out of your’s every now and again. True friends won’t worry too much when you’re not replying because they understand that you might be busy, too.
Don’t stress about those who do stop trying. They are the people who never finish a conversation. Who never start one. Those who just write, “Yeah lol,” in a text message in response to your paragraph about what you’ve been up to.
Focus on the true friends and stop trying with those who… Well, stopped trying themselves.
KEEP THE MEMORIES
You don’t need to fall out with anyone. You don’t have to throw away any memories of your friendship because you never know when they will try again. More often than not, they wouldn’t know what they were doing if it slapped them in the face.
Be happy with what you had with that person for however brief and move on.
Friendships are hard to maintain, especially as you get older. They shouldn’t dictate your life. Work hard on yourself and what you want to achieve rather than the need for lots of people around you.
In all honesty, I don’t have many friends but the ones I have are true friends. They’re who I know I don’t have to constantly bother for reassurance.