How To Be In Charge Of Your Life

Perhaps you’ve heard of James Cameron? He’s a Canadian filmmaker, director, producer, screenwriter, inventor, engineer, philanthropist, and deep sea explorer. Cameron wrote the screenplay for The Terminator. He sold it for $1 so he could direct the movie. He had earlier contact many production companies who expressed interest in the movie. But many were reluctant to let an inexperienced film director make the movie. James Cameron knew what he wanted. He was in charge of his life. He didn’t let circumstances stop him. In the end, he came out victorious.

Cameron went on to became a popular Hollywood director. He is the man behind blockbuster movies like Titanic and Avatar. Now you know you’ve heard of him!

What you may not know is that Cameron quit his job as a truck driver to enter the film industry after seeing the original Star Wars in 1972. Here’s how Cameron taught himself everything he knows about film-making:

“I’d go down to the USC library and pull any thesis that graduate students had written about optical printing, or front screen projection, or dye transfers, anything that is related to film technology. That way I could sit down and read it, and if they’d let me photocopy it, I would. If not, I’d make notes.”

Today, Cameron’s directorial efforts have grossed approximately US$2 billion in North America and US$6 billion worldwide. (Not adjusted for inflation).

In fact, Titanic and Avatar are the two highest-grossing films of all time at $2.19 billion and $2.78 billion respectively. Cameron only learned film-making by going to the USC library and devouring all the books there about film-making.

Many people currently live the lives others have planned for them. They wake up in the morning, eat breakfast, sit in the bottlenecked traffic on their commute to work. Work from 9 to 5. They don’t enjoy their work. The boss doesn’t treat them right. But they’ve got to pay the bills, keep the roof over their heads and feed the mouths. So, they’re stuck at that work for almost their entire lives. These people aren’t living their lives because they aren’t in charge of their lives. If you’re part of this group of people, it’s time you take charge of your life, achieve your dreams and goals, and live life to the fullest.

You’ve got to take control of your life like James Cameron.

How can you take charge of your life and achieve your dreams?

Here’s the first thing to do:


Your fears might be stopping you from going after the things you want. Fear is the greatest obstacle that stands in front of many people. There’s no way you’ll move forward in life if you don’t effectively deal with your fears. The first step to taking charge of your life is to overcome your fears.

Jim Carrey is a comedy genius. The star of multi-million dollar blockbuster movies. And a Golden Globe winner. In 2014, Carrey gave a commencement speech at Maharishi University of Management.

He talked about his father who desperately wanted to become a comedian but took the safe route and became an accountant. He failed. Despite having so much passion and love for comedy, Carrey’s father was guided by his fears.

Fears only lead to one thing: Failure.

This is why you must first overcome your fears. How can you recognize your fears?

Here are two questions that will help you:

  1. What’s the goal or dream you’ve been thinking about for a while?
  2. What’s stopping you from working towards that goal or dream?

There is probably a presence of a fear in your answer.


Now that you’ve identified your goals and dreams, they may seem impossible to achieve. But don’t be worried by that. It’s normal when you feel that way.

Every goal and dream starts looking achievable when you do one thing:


Planning is an essential part of being in charge of your life. You must make a plan of how you intend to start working towards your dream every day, week, month and year. When you don’t make a plan, you’ll be like people who don’t know how to move their lives forward. But when you make a plan and work towards it, you’ll start to take charge of your life. Soon, you’ll find yourself living your dream life.Imagine the next 12 months. Where do you want to be by then? What do you want to achieve before then?

Imagine the next 12 months. Where do you want to be by then? What do you want to achieve before then Now, decide to work towards your goal on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. Break your big goals into smaller everyday tasks.


Procrastination is the lazy man’s friend.

Many people are where they are today because they are lazy and procrastinate a lot.

Lazy people will always put everything off until tomorrow.

Tomorrow, I’ll start learning programming. Tomorrow, I’ll start eating healthier. Tomorrow, I will start working on a side-business. Tomorrow, I’ll start reading.

There’s always tomorrow until you wake up one day and realize that many years have gone, yet, you haven’t started working towards your goals.

Lazy people tend to be lazier and keep procrastinating.

On the hand is active people. Active people tend to keep working towards their goals. When they achieve their goals, active people would set another goal. As Isaac Newton taught us a long time ago, objects at rest tend to stay at rest and objects in motion tend to stay in motion.

Stop waiting for the perfect time to start something. If something is worth achieving, the perfect time to start working on it is now.

So how can you stop procrastinating and start working?

First, you need to identify those little things that may be distracting you from getting started. It might be that you have a lot of people around who makes it difficult for you to get things done. I’m not saying you should stay away from your friends and family because you want to achieve your goals. But there’s always time for everything. There are times for work. Sometimes, you might want to play.

For example, there are certain times when I don’t entertain calls, check emails, Facebook, Twitter and TV. That’s the time I’ve set to work on my goals.

Another strategy to get yourself started is to make the task so small that you’re not afraid of getting started. For example, if you’re want to become a writer, saying you want to write 1,000 words today could make the goal seem so big that you’ll find it easier to procrastinate. But what if you say your goal is to write 200 words a day? Or even 50 words a day? That seems achievable, isn’t it?

200 words may look so small, but as you continue to achieve it, you’ll start gaining that important momentum. When you do this over a long period of time, you may start cracking over 2,000 words a day without even knowing.

Remember what Sir Isaac Newton says, objects at rest tend to stay at rest and objects in motion tend to stay in motion.

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Michael Akinlaby has set a goal to connect with 500 smart successful people in the world. He’s an SEO expert and Freelance Writer. You can connect with him at

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