Learning How to Love Yourself and Be Happy in Your Own Skin

PHOTOS BY CARLA MUNDY

Telling people, “You should love yourself,” is such a cliché. It’s so easy to tell people how to be confident, embrace their imperfections and be happy in your own skin. But we all know, like all how-two posts on the web it’s really more than just a get-up and do it mentality and more of a perspective.

EMBRACING WHAT GOD GAVE YOU

Laura LFTN Brighton May 2016

Whether you believe there is a God per se doesn’t actually matter. Your body has a natural form to it and that can come in many shapes and sizes. The important thing to remember is that if you’re naturally curvy, there is no getting rid of those hips and if you’re naturally slim then there’s no creating something that isn’t there!

I’m not going all Meghan Trainor on you by saying, “Hey, love your body because no man wants a skinny girl anyway,” because I think her message gets a little misconstrued (also I don’t agree with any type of body shaming, skinny or not). If you’re a naturally voluptuous woman with wide hips, large breasts and thighs that touch then you should be happy with that. Hell yeah, you should embrace them! Wear clothes that accentuate them. But I’ll be honest when I say God never naturally fed someone a hamburger, fries and Coke to make them curvy. Just like no one bleached your skin to make you pale. Or dyed your hair that colour. Some things are just natural and you control how the rest of it goes.

For example, I personally don’t like my hips or thighs. They are naturally big, yes but a few choccy bars may have helped them on their way. So I’m working out to reduce the fat levels but I’m also fully aware it will be virtually impossible for them to go away completely (which I don’t want anyway!).

You have to be healthy and know that when people say, “Love yourself,” that isn’t an instruction to order a pizza or to get a fake tan (unless you want to of course). It’s an instruction to know that this is your body, whether you’re four foot or six foot, size eight or size sixteen and that is should be loved mentally and physically with a healthy lifestyle.

LOVE WHAT YOU LOVE

Laura LFTN Brighton May 2016

Being twenty five years old, I do get the occasional odd glance when I squeal at a Disney World advert or sing along to Let It Go in the car. But I love Disney. And I don’t care who knows it because it’s a part of me. Another example is that I’ve loved McFly since the age of thirteen. Age isn’t going to stop me. I enjoy watching cartoons too. I adore Marilyn Monroe and I have around fifty books on her and there are some who call me obsessed. They can.

But I love all of it. And I’m not going to call them guilty pleasures as I feel no guilt for loving them as much as I do. And neither should you. Obsessed with cats? Love The Simpsons? Watch Impractical Jokers on a daily basis like me? That’s fine! And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Know that love will not go away, embrace it!

DON’T ALWAYS FOLLOW A TREND

Laura LFTN Brighton May 2016

Just because something is fashionable doesn’t mean it’s right for you. You can immediately tell if someone is happy in their own skin when wearing an outfit or the latest shoes because of their body language.

Rather than following a trend directly, tweak it to suit you and your style. And you don’t have to necessarily stick to one type of look. Feeling a bit lazy? Wear your t-shirt and jeans with pride. Want to dress up? Go for it.

Some days I’ll wear a pretty dress, do my hair and make-up and other days I’ll live in a baggy t-shirt and PJ bottoms because that’s how I am feeling that day. Wearing whatever you feel comfortable in is probably one of my most used phrases, although I’m not sure. But that’s because I believe in it so much.

We are so drawn to let fashion (especially in blogging) to define us, it’s a bit silly.

If you look at yourself and think there are some things you’d like to change then work on it as long as you know you will be happy with it and that you’ll be happy in your own skin then that’s what matters. Would you say you love yourself? Are there things you want to change so desperately about your appearance? Pop a comment below!

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10 Comments

  • Reply Ellen June 25, 2016 at 9:17 pm

    I am impressed with the wisdom you possess at @25!! I have 40+ yrs. on you and can not say that I had that myself at so few years. I know that your thoughts are directed at millennials, not my baby boomer generation. That said, I still think your words ring true for any age one is at. This is the first time I’ve read your blog, but am inspired to continue. Thank-you and bless you too!

    • Reply Laura June 25, 2016 at 9:34 pm

      Thank you Ellen! That means a lot! xxx

  • Reply L June 25, 2016 at 9:28 pm

    It’s “per se”, not “per say”.

    • Reply Laura June 25, 2016 at 9:33 pm

      Thank you, my friend from Illinois 🙂

  • Reply Molly June 26, 2016 at 3:52 am

    Love this so much! I’m 22 and right there with ya singing along to Let it Go 😉

    http://www.mollyonthemoveblog.com

  • Reply Cinnamon June 26, 2016 at 6:01 am

    This is a good post for self-esteem. I’m going to look at loving myself through the this perspective.

  • Reply susan June 26, 2016 at 6:53 am

    “dyed your hair” not “died”

    http://a-woman-of-a-certain-age.com/

    • Reply Laura June 26, 2016 at 11:04 am

      I’m going to blame Grammarly and Amy having no internet for that one haha 😛 Thanks Sue! xx

  • Reply Jae June 29, 2016 at 4:19 pm

    Couldn’t have said this any better. For years, I’ve struggled with and loathed my pear body shape. Like you, I’ve inherited my mother’s curvy hips and thighs. I saw this post on a Bloglovin’ round-up, and I loved it! Thank you for sharing, Laura. 🙂

    But I’ll be honest when I say God never naturally fed someone a hamburger, fries and Coke to make them curvy. Just like no one bleached your skin to make you pale. Or dyed your hair that colour. Some things are just natural and you control how the rest of it goes.

    • Reply Laura June 29, 2016 at 6:29 pm

      Thank you very much Jae 🙂 xxx I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

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