If you have a love for anything you will face people who are going to make you feel shit about it. As a lover of a few things in my twenty-five years of being a human on this earth, I have found that there are a few annoyances you have to accept when you have passions, obsessions, and fangirl/boy moments. Here are ten of them:
- Someone will always ask, “Why do you like…?” Despite not having an answer for liking or participating in their own, what appears to be, lame hobbies or interests. Just say, “Because I do,” and move on.
- There’s always someone who loves it more than you and are ‘bigger fans’. Don’t worry about these guys too much. They obviously need to feel wanted or appreciated in some way.
- You will never have enough time or money to dedicate to said fandom. For example, Marilyn Monroe’s Seven Year Itch dress cost more than $4.6 million.
- Others in the fandom will always have an opinion based on facts. No matter how many times you show evidence of something, there are those who will disagree.
- So many know-it-alls. So many…
- Fans can get overly defensive and delusional, ignoring faults in humanity and that mistakes can happen.
- You can be deemed as obsessive because you have a lot of knowledge about a topic or because you own a hundred books on the subject.
- Not enough book space for hundreds of books.
- You want to educate everyone on their lack of knowledge/research or increased ignorance. Don’t know about the topic? Don’t talk.
- It’s what you think about a lot (or all) of the time.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THE STRESSES OF BEING IN A FANDOM
Being a part of the fandom should be like being part of a family. You shouldn’t fight or bicker. You should educate each other on certain topics, enjoy what you love and share a common interest. For those who aren’t in your fandom, you have to learn to brush off any ignorant comments because what do they know? If people cannot be bothered to read up on a topic from reliable sources then that’s their issue. You should direct them to information as politely as you can.
Love what you love and don’t feel ashamed of it. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it. The online world can be cruel, so take a step back from fansites and forums for a while if it’s getting to you and just enjoy what you went there for in the first place. Check out a post I did about loving who you are here!
Are you a part of any fandom? Do you have any hobbies or interests that trigger the above events? If you have anything to add to the list, write them in the comments below!